Bismillahi rahmani raheem, assalamu alaikum,
This is an answer taught to me by Allah through my Kashf and Maarifa then explained to me by Rasul Allah (saws) after reaching it.
The prophets Isa (as) and Muhammad (saws) are perfect examples of this, they are the two prophets I had in my heart at the time and am able to mention their names regarding this.
Rasul Allah’s (saws) worst enemies where not the Romans, Persians or the strangers He (saws) did not know, His worst enemies where His (saws) own family and Uncles, one of them was so severe there is an entire surah in the Quran dedicated to his punishment, surah al Masad.
Isa (as) faced similar from His companions and the people around Him (as);
The first step to prophet hood is mastery in the heart over the deepest pain inflicted by those closest to you, to the point where forgiveness is not even a question and you can sit in front of them and dispose of their affairs and rights with complete balance and fairness in your heart, your heart never wavers from being able to judge with balance and that quality is the key.
People can forgive but can your heart maintain complete and absolute balance if an issue arises and you need your inner perception to maintain itself so you can see with clarity.
The Prophets are those able to do this with perfection, without wavering in any situation, when a person is capable of this Allah walks them through the door of prophet hood.
That is the door that is closed today to rest of mankind because in some realities certain qualities can harm a person, for example showing to much mercy to a tyrant can lead to your death. Allah is not looking for people who will show mercy blindly His people Have Hikmah (Wisdom) and know when something is good and when it is harmful.
The Quality of the prophets in our time is too much of a burden upon a person because we live in a time in which Rasul Allah (saws) advised us not to try to fix the problems of the world, the people of today are beyond help and will kill you like the Jews killed their prophets, they will destroy your heart and that balance is impossible and not necessary in our time because judgment upon them is punishment.
People like Umar (as) who the prophet (saws) said would have been prophets after Him (saws) are able to reach this quality but Allah will not allow them to master it, that is a distinction, Allah won’t allow them that door is closed.
This last point regarding mastery/control/Ihsan is an explanation I received from Rasul Allah (saws).
Some people maybe tempted to see this quality in themselves, Understand the harm that come at the prophets (as) which their hearts had to deal with came at them like a mountain from many directions at the same time.
Believe with certainty you will be in distress rather than balance in such situations, because every foundation and rock in your personality will be shaken by the people who are its basis in your life.
Shaykh Rami Al Rifai.