Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem.
وَحَنَانًا مِّن لَّدُنَّا وَزَكَاةً وَكَانَ تَقِيًّا
The fitnah of Drinking alcohol is extremely bad because of what it does to a persons reality and spirituality blocking them from Allah entirely, it ruins the wujud/presence, light and spiritual connections of women which you can equate that to every inferior complex women have around men, if you want to know why men don’t see women, why the man you sought in you youth never saw you, it is because you drink.
A Women’s Baraka is in reaching the hearts of men with their light and face, Khamir kills that light and reduces the state of the women to almost nothing so she has no presence with men and if they don’t see her they find it harder to respect her, at this point she is almost useless as a women unable to help herself, her husband and her children, she has killed her influence with the people around her and begins to feel small in herself like a part of her is gone, like a light is missing inside, so she compensates and becomes one of the deluded.
The women looses her ability to stand up spiritually, she looses her spiritual image, her compassion (حَنَانًا) and ruins her ability to connect with others with the same clarity as the Awliyah. The strength of that inner self she lost comes from the light Allah gives to women in order to help them in this world, without it they face much more hardship than they need to because that light is the foundation of society which you will see when you understand what it does.
The spiritual “face” of a women who drinks is a haze and every time her spirituality is used to help her in life that connection is no more than a haze with the spiritual world, the connection with the spiritual is so lost because of alcohol that the light of any prayer is useless and Allah does not accept it, if she drinks once this effect lasts with her for 40 days and that is how much Allah distances himself from her.
Understand from this how much of your spiritual life you are killing with alcohol, how much of your Rizq is being ruined and cast into the wind.
Alcohol destroys the spiritual reality of your character so it can not argue for you when you speak, don’t look at your self now and think everything is fine that is only what you have come to accept life to be, you don’t know the life of real women and how it is supposed to be.
This is what you are ruining, we will show it over a number of ahadith and verses so pay attention:
Abu Bakr Al-Sidique said: “Obey Allah in what He has commanded you to do by getting married; He will then fulfill His promise to you to make you rich (enrich you).” He then recited this verse:
“And marry those among you who are single (male and female). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His bounty.” [Surah Nur, 32]
Umar Ibn Khattab said: “Seek richness through marriage!”, Likewise, Abdullah ibn Masuud said, “Find richness by getting married.”
‘Abdullah ibn ‘Abbas (ra) under the commentary of this verse would say: “Allah Ta’ala commanded and encouraged them to get married, and he promised them wealth”
Sayyiduna ‘Umar Ibn Al Khattab (ra) would say:
“I am surprised at the person who does not search for wealth by means of marriage, whereas Allah Ta’ala has stated “If they are poor, Allah will make them independent by his grace” (‘Abdur Razzaq, Refer: Al Maqasidul Hasanah, pg. 83, Hadith: 162)
Rasul Allah (saws) said:“Marry women, for verily they will bring wealth (with them)” (Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah, Hadith: 16161, mursalan- مرسلا- , with a reliable chain)
Sayiduna Abu Hurayrah (ra) reports that Rasul Allah (saws):
“There are three types of people whom it is a right upon Allah to help and assist, The Mujahid in the path of Allah, The Mukatab [a slave paying for his freedom] who intends to pay and the one who makes nikah intending chastity” (Sunan Tirmidhi, Sunan Ibn Majah, Sahih).
A women is a force of spiritual attraction not just through beauty but in everything relating to Rizq, which means more than just wealth, it more broadly means prosperity in life and it is the women who brings prosperity into the marriage with her light that is working around her everyday to do so, this is the importance of womens purity this is what the impure kill with their vile acts.
The women who drinks her entire life stunts her Rizq, she is but dead inside unable to carry the light needed to make the connections that attract prosperity and wealth, she is raised in a life with no light wondering why she is not receiving any help, you should rather ask why you are not able to see the doors of help, it is because you can’t connect to them even if Allah placed them in front of your face.
Above all of this, the number one thing a women who drinks is ruining is the ability for her husband to see her clearly in his mind, she is killing the impact of her beauty and influence on him. The Mala’ikah say she has no right to this and will make her spiritual presence a hazy mess like the reality of the alcohol which she is taking on by drinking it.
It is a principle among the Prophets and Awliyah (as) that you are what you eat, so they guarded what they consumed, how far from light some people are…
Shaykh Rami Al Rifai.
“O you who have believed, obey Allah and obey the Messenger and those in authority among you.” (4:59)